Relationship with Deity

I originally wrote this to answer a friend’s Facebook query, but thought it would make a good post so I’m reproducing it with some slight alterations to make it read better.

It may have been only priest/esses who had a personal relationship with deity, but when paganism was reviving there were no priest/esses. In order for belief to be revived, deities would have to contact people personally, especially as the structure for supporting said priest/esses financially to be priest/esses is no longer there. Also I suspect that deities are adhering to the way things are done in the modern day (deities having a personal interest in people) which didn’t start in the modern Church until the Protestant Reformation, which (in my opinion) did it to stop the Church having so much power over ordinary people.

Unfortunately we get a lot of pagans who represent deity as something that they’re not. In my opinion some of these are people who the deities have tested and failed, although some will be nutters or special snowflakes. Once I was doing a meditation and had Herne the Hunter turn up. It was an Irish sort of meditation so I gave him a hard stare and told him he wasn’t Herne the Hunter. It was Angus Og mucking around and I wonder how many he’s conned who didn’t know better.

For those who are not into deity, I’m telling you a few of my experiences to show you that some people have real experiences with deity and not all of them are nice.

The first was with The Morrigan. I was in serious trouble at work and I prayed for help. A thought instantly came into my head to contact the union, which had just started up at work. I went to the local union rep, who told me to join the union and they’d represent me. I didn’t learn until much later that he shouldn’t have done that, the union rules were that they couldn’t help anyone who was not in the union at the time of trouble and he should have told me he couldn’t represent me and sent me away. Two and a half years later I walked out of there with £7K in redundancy plus shares. My rep later told me that he’d overheard my boss’ boss say “Fiona’s off with stress, let’s get her out of here”.

The second was with Siannon. For fifteen years I rented various properties and in all of them something went wrong with water. I had it all : showers and toilets leaking and in one case the circuit board of the shower went on fire! This started before I became pagan, so I didn’t think about it until my normally very cautious now-husband left the taps on in the bath and flooded our flat and the two below it. I meditated and got Siannon. A while later, she wanted me to do something for her. We were going away for a day and staying overnight, so I said I’d do it soon. The hotel we were staying was 300 years old and was fine when we went to bed that night. The next morning we woke up to no cold water. This was just us. We were transferred to another room which had enough cold water so we could wash etc and then it ran out. The poor manager was having kittens in case the kitchen was affected (it had happened once before) but we were the only ones affected. Nowadays, when Siannon says “jump” I ask “how high”.

The latest was with Brigit. She asked me to follow her and I wasn’t keen, but I said that if she gave me a child I would do so. At that time we had tried for two years with one miscarriage and had been trying for a further two years after that. I was forty-two years old and had been refused IVF because of age and being too fat. She gave me a son and now I follow her. I’m still not keen, but I have to uphold my end of the bargain.



A long while ago Brigit came to me in a meditation and asked me to follow her. I didn’t particularly want to follow her, so I made a bargain with her.

The bargain was that if she gave me a child, I would follow her. If the child was female, one of her names would be Brigit, if male one of his names would be her father’s, who was The Dagda.
At the time of making the bargain we had been trying for four years with one miscarriage. I was 42 years old and time had nearly run out.

Now more than a year on I have the longed-for child and I must complete my end of the bargain and follow her. This means I have to become a flametender. I’m not looking forward to this duty, especially as I’m time-poor, but she has certainly held up her end of the bargain so I must hold up mine.

Deities with Problems with one Another

Even within a pantheon deities can have problems with one another. For example, The Morrigan never likes it when I speak to Siannon in a meditation. Usually you can find a reason in the texts, but on this occasion I have found nothing. I could ask The Morrigan, but I really don’t want to get involved as I have enough problems of my own.


I am a polytheist, which means I follow many deities. When I first started out, I read a book which said that you follow one male and one female deity as a “Lord and Lady”. My first year in Paganism soon disabused me of that notion.

For a while I didn’t really have a deity I followed (although I kidded myself I did) and then The Morrigan came knocking. I was researching Brigit at the time and then would rather have had her, but The Morrigan was adamant.

Recently, as documented in this blog Ogma walked into a meditation and told me I was following him. Brigit has also recently asked me to follow her (many years on, I wasn’t so keen!) so I made a bargain with her that if she gives me X, I will follow her.

This may all sound confusing, but they don’t get in each others’ way and I have made sure that they have no problems with one another.

Irish Deity Names

When reading about Irish deities there are two things you have to bear in mind :-

1. Spellings are optional. A name may be spelt (depending on which source you read) as Tealte, Tailte and so on and so forth.

2. There can be several people called the same name. For example, I have found seven people called Donn.

All this means that deities are a bit more confused in Ireland than in other places.


Sometimes the deities will ask you to do something in meditation. This is not restricted to those deities who you follow. It’s always a good idea to do what they ask, as I have found that the task is beneficial to you.

However, sometimes the task means doing something daily, for example reading the horoscope which I calculate using my birth chart daily, which means getting into a new habit. This is always more difficult and may take time.


Last week in meditation, Ogma walked in while I was talking to The Morrigan and announced that I was following him.

I have met him a few times in meditation and made offerings to Ogma before. One of his sobriquets is “honey-tongued” and since he is one of the champions of Ireland, I usually ask for his help when I need to fight with words.

I have no idea where this is going, but I will follow and find out.


Regular readers will know that I write a lot about deities. However, deities are not central to my craft and I know witches who do not follow any deities.

There seems to be three types of witch. The first invokes deities in their spells all the time. The second, which includes myself, is the one who doesn’t invoke deities in spells but will do rituals asking deities for things. The third is one who doesn’t follow deities at all.


I meditated the other day and talked to Brigit. We made a bargain, which was that I would follow her if she gave me a child and if it is a girl her middle name would be Brigit.

Following a Deity

When you accept a deity to follow you must be prepared for what will happen. If, like me, you follow The Morrigan you have to be prepared to fight in your life.

I strongly advise that you research the deity who has asked you follow them before you answer yes or no. I have heard of pagans who have stopped following a deity, but it’s better to know what you’re getting into before your life is turned upside down.

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