Now You’re Expecting…


First off, CONGRATULATIONS! It often takes a lot of hard work conceiving. However, as a pagan there are some extra things you have to do…

When your baby is newborn, at first the vast majority of your time will be taken up with looking after it, so this is a rough guide to enable the primary carer to be able to pick up the pieces of having a pagan life when your baby progresses beyond the newborn stage and you find yourself having a bit more time.

If you have a newborn, then unless it’s an emergency don’t bother trying to do any sort of magical work. If you’re lucky you’ll remember which day of the week it is and if you’re really intent on marking the festivals, light a candle, but it will probably come and go and you will have forgotten about it.

Firstly, make preparations before the baby comes. I typed up a lot of astrological information I knew I needed to run my daily horoscope, so I was two years ahead by the time my baby arrived. If you have a witchy garden and your baby is due to arrive in the Spring or Summer, then make sure it is all tidied up and get a responsible person who is not you or your partner to take care of them.

Also, in case herbs you need die or you are unable to get to your usual shop find a mail order system. I am unable to go into the woods because I can’t use a sling and two of my friends are unable to walk far due to pelvic problems. Another friend has a baby who screams when he is in the car despite trying everything. If you are in this situation you will want to keep car journeys to a minimum.

Essential oils and herbs need to be stored where little fingers cannot get at them. Also labelling everything is now of the utmost importance because if the worst happens and you have to take your baby or child to hospital, if the doctors know what they’ve ingested then they can get the best care. Children, babies and animals have smaller internal organs than us, so are less able to process medicines, herbs, essential oils and suchlike, which is why they have lower doses than adults.

These days I write all my spells on my mobile. This means that if I get a few minutes to myself I can look at the spell I’m working on and add or change a few bits. I also try and do something magical every day. This might be as simple as gathering together a few ingredients while on a walk, or consecrating them ready for use.

I also wait until I’ve put my son down and then perform a spell or ritual, because I know then that I have roughly half an hour before he wakes up and can concentrate fully on what I’m doing without fear of interruption. Spells are hard enough to do without worrying about whether your baby will wake up or not.

I mentioned candles earlier in this article. I flametend regularly and having a cat and a mobile baby plus naked flames can spell disaster. So I bought battery-operated candles. These are just as good as the real thing, plus using them again and again builds up the power in these objects. You can probably do the same thing with a real candle by making your own and using the remnants of the old candle in the making.

I hope you enjoy your babies and someday you get some sleep…

Defining Spells


I once visited Aberglasny, which is a National Trust property, in order to see it’s thousands year old yews.

What was apparent to me on setting foot on the property is that the place has an unnatural air of calm about it. Reading the history of the property, I learned that the families who inhabited the property never got beyond the third generation before dying out.

Talking later with a friend of mine with a lot more magical experience than myself, we came to the conclusion that a Bishop who originally owned the property had probably “blessed” it so it would have the calm he desired. Of course, he never wanted children, so what started out as a blessing became a curse.

Permission


Some say that you should ask permission for performing spells. I agree with those who say that it’s not necessary to ask when you are doing curses, but what about other spells?

As in any relationship, I do a quick calculation as to how much trouble I’m going to be in if the recipient finds out I’ve done a spell. So far the answer has always been “it’s not worth it” and I have asked permission.

I have not yet been turned down and when the recipient has said “yes”, I have felt the spell working even before I have done it.

Quatrains


I have been writing quatrains for a while and until now I have not used rhyming sites or thesauri, reasoning that it was better for me to do things the hard way and work out rhymes myself and thus build my skill in doing so.

Unfortunately it results in spells that stink. Oh, they work all right, but the words only just fit into the meaning I want and the rhymes can be a bit convoluted.

While it is not necessary to write beautiful, flowing poetry in order to perform a successful spell, I would prefer that my words were more than one jump up from making sense. So I have resorted to using rhyme and thesaurus sites.

Protection


It is not often that you know your protective spells have worked. I have been putting protection on my house for years and a few months ago I had confirmation that what I was doing worked.

Unusually my hubby was ill, so my son and I were sleeping downstairs so he wouldn’t be woken when my son woke up.
At three in the morning my son woke up, but by the time I had switched on a light and made my way over to the cot, he’d gone back to sleep. I checked he was okay and it was then I heard two people walking past, which is unusual for our part of town, but thought no more of it and went back to sleep.

The next day we heard that a house a couple of doors away from us had been burgled. They had left their doors unlocked and the burglars were going past trying doors.

Non-Pagans


I would not involve more than one non-pagan in a group which is doing pagan work. I have found that non-pagans are often there only because they are curious and if there is more than one talk turns to non-pagan subjects and the essence of the group is diluted.

This is fine if it’s one of those moots where all you are there to do is make friends and the subjects can be anything, but if you are doing serious work or the preparation of such I have found it’s best to keep non-pagans down to one.

Headspace


In order to perform a spell or ritual correctly, you must have your head together.

By this I mean even before getting everything together for the spell, you must eliminate all possible distractions, e.g. going to the toilet, making sure pets are shut up and cannot break your circle.

Part of getting my head together is gathering all the paraphernalia ready for the spell and making sure it’s consecrated before I go out and do it.

After that I know that I am totally focused on the spell and its outcome and I am sure that the spell will work. I cannot be sure of this if I am distracted or worried about something.

Sometimes things happen, especially during ritual. Candles blow out or fail to light. If I am in the proper headspace then I can carry on, confidently knowing that my ritual will work.

Catching Up


At the moment I have a lot of things to catch up on, as it’s taken me awhile to get used to having and caring for a baby.

Some of them are mundane, like weeding the drive. Others are not so mundane, like weeding the garden, which has some humungous weeds on it since it’s been left for five months or so.

Others are magical. I have my yearly house defences and cat health protection spell to do. Also my hubby knocked the wing mirror off someone else’s car. Years ago, after three accidents in a year including one where a suicidal pheasant took his windscreen out on the motorway, I made him a travel protection device. My reaction to this accident was that it wasn’t working. My hubby then informed me that he thought it wasn’t in the car, and lo and behold when I checked I found it wasn’t, so that needs replacing.

I also have to finish writing one ritual to introduce my son to the ancestors and another to introduce him to our tribal tree, plus I have an oath to write so I can flametend for Brigit. It’s a busy time…

Results of Blessing Trees


Since I hadn’t written a wassailing spell for the last year or so I’d been blessing trees I took fruits from.

The other week I took a walk in the forest and found that the trees had literally bore fruit, which was bigger than usual.

I’m pleased about this, but still want to finish my wassailing spell, which will be used at the Midwinter Solstice and keep the trees blessing for when I take fruit from the tree.
I have never found the need to take branches from a living tree, as my needs have been supplied from fallen wood.

Unneeded Cursing


When someone is hurting yourself and yours it is only natural to reach for a curse and deal out merry hell to the person.

Yes, it is absolutely deserved but sometimes the person will just carry on what they are doing.

One method I have used instead is a found out spell. This is a spell to get others to realise exactly what the person is like and is best used in court cases or other circumstances where the person can be penalised.

For example, your best friend is being bullied at school but the person doing the bully is the child of the headmaster. Cursing would probably provide short-term relief, but a spell to get the headmaster and other teachers to realise what this person is doing should see their bullying curtailed.

« Older entries